And now for Number 3…

“Numbing the pain for a while will make it worse when you finally feel


 Teaching yourself not to feel is difficult, but it’s sometimes easier than the alternative: facing the tough events that occur in your life. The issue with blocking out emotions and teaching yourself not to feel is that you simply cannot do it forever. Eventually you must move on with life, no matter if you’ve suffered death of a close one, abuse, or any other tragedy. At that point, all the emotions of pain collapse in on yourself and you end up facing them all at once. This is very damaging.

Instead, take those painful emotions, and be courageous enough to learn from them. Life is only worth living if you’re living. Don’t let yourself become desensitized from the emotions of life.

Matter cannot be created nor destroyed, only changed. Emotions are the same way. Never change pain to numbness. Instead change pain, in time, to joy.



Matthew Estes

Matthew Estes currently exists in the ether between graudate student and full-time worker. One day he hopes to be a full-time novelist and blogger, but until that day comes he spends his time playing video games, eating pizza, and being with his soon-to-be wife. However, he has yet to do all three at the same time. Bucket list stuff, you know.