[ The following is a column I wrote for The Eclectic Observer when I was a senior in high school. I will try to periodically introduce my back-catalog of columns as this blog continues. Nostalgia, you know. ]
Drama. Find a topic that basically every teenager has come face to face with on multiple occasions and it will very likely be drama.
It’s taken me eighteen years to come up with a proper, acceptable, and concise definition of that word, and I’m very happy to share it with you now. Drama is the intentional injection of lies, gossip, or false assumptions into an otherwise normal situation, based on another person’s jealously or hard-feelings.
I will concede that there are good forms of drama, especially in books, movies, and television shows. Imagine, for instance, a Star Trek episode like this: the crew beams down to a planet, everything happens just like it’s supposed to, and they beam back up. A refresher for hard-core Trekkies, maybe, but the episode would be largely boring for the rest of us.
However, drama, specifically in real-life human relationships, is bad for three basic reasons. It causes false accusations, complicates relationships, and induces wrong decision-making.
False accusations occur simply because of the information being spread by the different parties involved. Although the wisest course of action would be to only believe what is being said from the person in question, the inevitable false accusation can and will still occur.
Relationships are, in effect, complicated. More trust is required, especially from friends. Many people will simply choose to believe the lies being presented and terminate the friendship. Others will act differently around the target of the drama. Only a true friend will confront the person in question, and remain in a solid friendship no matter what the response.
Lastly, decisions are made much more complicated. It is difficult to determine the possible options for a situation if it is being shrouded by a large amount of untruthfulness. Even people in leadership positions struggle when faced with the unfortunate effect of drama.
Be careful to determine what to listen to from your peers with extreme discernment. Go to the person in question if possible. Also be careful not to spread gossip, weather you know it’s true or not. If you are on the receiving end of drama, be sure to rely on your close friends. True friends will be there no matter what goes on.