Does Marriage/Love/Family Exist in Heaven?

This blog continues my series on Christian topics that I’m on the fence about. I’ve been all wrapped up in work and finals that this series has just fallen behind. It’s time to change that.

This topic is… debated. Now, you’re not going to see heated flame wars over Facebook that goes like this:

Person #1. There IS marriage in Heaven! Here’s 33 verses that indicate why.

Person #2. Not there isn’t, because Jesus says… blah blah blah…

No, those kind of debates only apply to homosexuality, eternal security, and, umm, Duck Dynasty for some reason. Seriously guys, it’s just a TV show.

But it is something that splits the kingdom of God like Moses split the Red Sea. Whether the concepts of marriage, romantic love, or family exist in Heaven. Heck, there’s even debate about weather we’ll even remember our lives or know one another at all in Heaven.

Ironically, the great divide is often between the ones that are happily in love with their significant other, and the ones that are relationally grouchy. But that’s beside the point.

So what do I think about the whole conflict? Wait for it…
I don’t know.

Heaven is a manifestation of the incomprehensible nature of God. I have no clue how we’ll exist… what level of consciousness we’ll achieve… in our glorified bodies. Related to that fact is that I don’t know if love will be an emotion worth experiencing in Heaven. I don’t know if memories or time will matter. I don’t even know if time or memories will exist. I know these are remarkably unnatural subjects to ponder, but I feel they can get us closer to an answer than anything else.

The Bible has very few words on the topic, but the most often cited passage is Luke 20:27-39. It’s a little too long to post here, but I’ll link you to the passage. Even so, the passage doesn’t as much address the idea of marriage in Heaven as much as it criticizes the Pharisees. Take it for what you will, but I don’t think the passage delivers enough evidence to support the idea that marriage does not exist in heaven.

What do I think? I am of the camp that asks why God would give someone a life-long spouse only to just forget about him or her in Heaven. Marriage is,  after all, a metaphor for Christ and his church, right? I also think that we’ll have the memories of life on Earth. How would we appreciate the perfectness of God without first realizing our own original depravity?

But this is all speculation. There is an extremely high probability that I’m wrong about everything. And I’m okay with that. I just don’t know.





Matthew Estes

Matthew Estes currently exists in the ether between graudate student and full-time worker. One day he hopes to be a full-time novelist and blogger, but until that day comes he spends his time playing video games, eating pizza, and being with his soon-to-be wife. However, he has yet to do all three at the same time. Bucket list stuff, you know.